August 19, 2016 Lisa Austin

It’s OK to be Selfish

Overworked and Overwhelmed

Can you relate?

Do you ever feel that you’re overworked? How about overwhelmed, and—even worse—underappreciated? Maybe others appreciate you, but you don’t appreciate yourself…

It’s so easy to put the needs of everyone else before yourself; for us women, it just seems to come with the job of being a friend, a wife, a mother and a breadwinner for ourselves and our families. Because of this “others first” mentality, being consistent with a nutrition or exercise plan can be a problem. Complicated relationships with food and/or having difficulty with consistency in diet, exercise and lifestyle habits are two common problems that hold women back from having the body they want and being their best selves. While some women actually get an influx of energy from helping others, that energy quickly depletes, leaving them without the energy to take care of their own needs. After a while of neglecting nutrition and exercise, the changes become noticeable—stronger food cravings, avoiding mirrors, clothes fitting differently—and the roller coaster ride has begun.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can regain control of your body and your situation; you can avoid emotional eating and start taking care of your physical fitness again. Women who want to see success in their fitness goals need to break that cycle. When it’s your health and wellbeing that’s involved, I can promise you one thing: it’s OK to be selfish! Heck, it’s even a requirement!

Have you thought about your relationship with food?

If you have a complicated relationship with food, discover where the urge to over-eat or eat unhealthy items comes from. If it’s caused by negative emotions, you can consciously decide to feel them, and let them go instead of covering them up. The eating is a surface solution that doesn’t rectify the problem. Many people understand that the use of foods—often wine, chocolate, sugar and other sweet treats—doesn’t help resolve emotions. In fact, the overeating or indulging often results in guilt for overeating and gaining weight, and the cycle repeats itself. Once that “food rush” wears off, the same problems exist.

 When you find yourself turning to food, question what brought you to that point. What were you doing; where were you, what were you thinking? Are you really hungry, or just looking for something familiar out of habit? Usually, a thought, belief or emotion is driving your urge to eat. Once you identify this, you can learn to sit with an emotion, no matter how irrational you think it may be, and identify different ways of coping. Simply observe the emotion, where it shows up in your body, and wait. It may present as hunger, but that’s a learned reaction to the emotion, not true hunger. Don’t judge yourself; just wait for it to pass and don’t criticize yourself. Once you’re aware, you can make food-related decisions more consciously.

You are not alone when you struggle to be consistent

Research indicates that 65% of women struggle with being consistent with exercise and nutrition plans. For example, many women who have tried options such as Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, popular diets (Paleo, juice fasts, cleanses, low-carb), cross-fit and other group workouts, may experience some success in the beginning, but the methods eventually break down and fail over time. The reason for this is because they are surface-level solutions that provide a place to exercise, track the calories you’re eating, and suggest the best foods to eat, but fall flat when “life” happens and other things become more important.

Make yourself accountable. A good program can help you do that.

You owe it to yourself to find a program you believe in, and a way that you can be held accountable. Here are the key factors you need in a program:

  • It has been tested by a lot of people, so you know it works.
  • It’s customizable to your lifestyle, so you can maintain consistency when “life happens.”
  • It’s something you enjoy doing. If you don’t enjoy it, it will seem like a chore—and who wants to do those?!
  • It includes large, positive goals to shoot for (the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that will help you stay focused when you feel like nothing is working).
  • It measures your progress (daily/weekly/monthly).
  • It uses a structured plan, but can slow down and move at your own speed.
  • It includes daily reminders to practice whichever habit you’re currently working on.
  • It can be customized to your skill level, goals and time availability.

You keep hearing this word ‘Accountability’ a lot, why is it so important?

Accountability is an important part of being consistent and staying on track. No one always feels motivated to go out and make healthy choices, but personal accountability and motivation can help you follow through with those choices. Having a person to be accountable with will push you forward when it seems too difficult or you just don’t want to do it. Find a person you trust to be your accountability partner, whether it’s a friend, a workout mate, your spouse, a fitness expert or a personal trainer. It will help you achieve the most success, and keep you going when the going gets tough.

Put yourself first

Putting yourself first is a lifestyle change, and you’ll need help to start being selfish and putting your needs first. Learning new things requires support, a process that works for you, and a lot of practice as you try to implement consistent changes into your daily life.

The first step is to decide to make those changes; then, you can move forward with focus, accountability and support to finally make yourself and your needs a priority. I have a program that helps you move forward and push aside those negative feelings once and for all! Take that first step and get in touch today.

Take the first step. Then let me take over.

For most people, getting started is the hardest thing. Figuring out what to do first. Overcoming that fear and taking that first step into the unknown.

I understand that, I know that feeling all too well. I’ve been there and making the change to move from “all or nothing” to “always something” was one of the best things I’ve done for myself and my family.

But the first step must begin with you. If you’re ready to start looking and feeling better while putting yourself first, I’m here to help.

I have a program that will help you to put yourself first, it’s customizable to your lifestyle, measures your progress… it is structured for success!

 

Do you need help getting started? Reach out, I would be happy to help you get some clarity around what you need to do to reach your goals RIGHT NOW – that may be with or without me – and we’ll figure that out too!

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